The Psychology of Winning - Do whatever it takes

Jun 26, 2012 3:00 AM

Four Ways to Win – Part II

Expecting good results and motivating yourself in a positive way were the first two of the four winning ways that Denis Waitley proposed in his audio program, The Psychology of Winning. Now let’s explore two more ways to attain your goals in gambling and all of life’s other pursuits.

Positive Self-Direction. Winners set goals, make plans to achieve them, and then “Just Do It!” as the popular Nike slogan suggests. Easier said than done.

“The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or they don’t think they’re believable or achievable,” warns Waitley. Winners set goals and then design a plan to achieve them. Losers fail by default. In other words, know what you want and be willing to do whatever it takes to get it.

To determine what you really want, ask yourself a few questions:

• What is my most important lifetime goal?

• Where do I want to be a year from today?

• What is my most important priority next month?

• What can I do today to achieve what I want, and how much am I willing to do to get it?

Positive Self-Control. The degree to which you see yourself, rather than external forces, as what controls your fate determines how you react to the ups and downs of life’s success ladder. The winner says, “I’ll take the credit or the blame for my performance.” The loser says, “I can’t understand why life – or the dealer or my boss or my spouse – did this to me.”

Waitley suggests answering these questions to evaluate your attitudes toward whom or what pulls your strings:

• Am I a lucky or an unlucky person?

• What are the controlling influences in my world right now?

• What do I need to do to control what happens to me?

“Nearly everything in life is volitional,” he says. “Each of us has many more choices and alternatives than we are willing to consider.” Waitley suggests setting aside a specific block of time each week during which you initiate actions to increase your personal control over your life: make phone calls, write letters, reach out to people who can help you achieve your goals.

“Don’t wait for invitations to success or you’ll go into the Losers Hall of Fame as one of those ‘almost-made-its’ with permanent potential,” he says.

You can use Waitley’s tips to win at any of life’s games: business, relationships, health, gambling. When you say to yourself, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me,” you’ll have The Gambler’s Edge.